What a Nice Personality

Good looks, good personality and intelligence are the 3 traits that we as humans can utilize to find a mate. Whilst having all 3 is a blessing it is a rarity. Most are blessed with high amounts of 2. Some are blessed with a high amount of 1 and an average to low amount of the others. Good looks and intelligence (not regurgitation but natural intelligence) are not tools that can be faked, unless of course some cosmetic surgery is involved. Personality for the most part is the one that you can make an effort, free of cost, to improve.

I once read a book called How to Dress For The World of Work, and the key point that always stood out to me was how it said to never have an off day because you never know who will see you. As humans we are always on show, always selling ourselves, always being scrutinized. It may be for anything from a job to a relationship, whether intimate or platonic. In each case we seek to highlight our finer attributes to come out as the best candidate for the available position. It’s with this logic in mind that ugly women who are unmannerly irk me to no end.

I know the first thing many of you will ask is what makes someone ugly and the whole beauty is in the eye of the beholder argument. Now that you’ve gotten that triviality out of your system let’s get down to the meat of the matter. No matter how nice you want to be or how politically correct we try to be we all know that there are some people who even if their hips would make you fall in love with a hipster, you don’t want to bump into them unannounced in a dark alley. Such an occurrence is likely to make your heart skip a beat or stop.

However, I am not condoning being rude in any form or fashion but in this materialistic and shallow world we live in we all know an unmannerly pretty lady will get some leverage that an ugly lady of similar disposition will not be given. Some ladies get by with a cute face only, whilst others get by with a nice body and an elite few are blessed with both. These are outside the exceptional ladies out there with both and the ability to make love to you mentally due to their high intellect.

The older folks constantly repeated to me growing up that manners maketh the man. I wasn’t sure what this meant till older and then I realize it made you as a complete person. Manners add a certain unknown sexiness to an individual. Average Jane can appear Halle’ish with an attractive personality. On the other hand an exceptionally good looking lady will be good looking whether she has manners or not. The difference is that males are, for the most part, unable to think rationally once met with a cute smile so we give numerous concessions to unmannerly females in an effort to get to know them in the biblical sense.

This leaves me to wonder why is it that if you are at a disadvantage in the aesthetic category why you would further hinder yourself by being ugly personality wise is beyond me. Are you bitter because you feel robbed genetically? As little children we are mean and savage beings, did childhood teasing scar you so much that you now look to take it out on the world by pushing your disfigured nose up into the air?

Manners make the man and woman. Smile, say good morning, please and thank you, it might help someone see pass your other flaws.