Mi Amor means My love

Yesterday we celebrated International Women’s Day and I can say I’ve been blessed to know some incredible and strong ladies. As I write this and look at my followers and think of some of the others who I know will read this I can honestly say I know some beautiful and intelligent ladies and wish nothing but the best for them.

However that is a topic for another day. Today’s topic will be the first in a series which will look at abuse. We all know the customary man beats woman type abuse and I’m not condoning it because one of the 1st things I learnt in Sunday school was that Eve came from the rib to be equal. I however want to look at abuse from the other angles which have been popping up in the news recently.

Yesterday amongst the observance the television and radio were plastered with PSAs about abuse against females and the pain caused by domestic violence. These ads brought my mind back to a conversion I had the day before with another nice lady when she asked me why I think that the paper reported of abuse in same sex relationships. As I thought about her question the only answer I could come up with was the need for a man in these relationships. Now I can see your confusion and wondering if I’ve finally gone fully crazy but I will seek to explain myself.

In these same sex relationships you notice one of them usually dresses like a lady and the other like a male. They then also start to display the characteristics of these genders. Males are thought to be the dominant physical gender. They are aggressive and somewhat controlling. When these parties engage in the mimicking of these roles they adopt these traits. I know struggle to find shirts/vest to fit me because my size seemingly matches the popular size of females who think they are boys. So whilst dressed like a male they become “aggressive” like a male. However as is usually the case when you try be something you are not you over play your role and aggressive male behavior kicks in.

Similarly studies show that despite the fact that some are “born” that way many females stop liking males-female interaction because they’ve had a bad experience with a man such as abuse or rape. These violent interactions become they reference point for interactions with males. When they engage in same sex relations it leads then to either act out this “aggression” or allow it to be shown on them. This then leads to the bad experiences raring its head in same sex relations and the bite can make your blood run when this aggression manifests itself.

This same sex violence speaks out to the larger violence in society. Why can’t 2 persons interact on equal terms? Why must 1 always be dominant and why must this dominance be in a physical way? Why do some people still believe that a good slap is required to keep others in line? Maybe I’m weird in that I’d rather take out my frustrations by playing sports or a more intimate 1 on 1 situation. Whatever the matter is, whether it is same sex or male female relations, we need to look into why it is happening.

Please note I know some men get beaten by their females but that is a story for another day