Prettiest people do the ugliest things

The affects of sexual and physical abuse are well known. They are tangible and visible and as such are the ones most spoken of. However, there is a 3rd form that I believe is just as or sometimes even more damaging. Mental and emotional abuse is what I speak of. A person’s self esteem can be the driving point in everything they do. When one feels good about themselves everything they do is met with an enthusiasm and zeal. If you break this down a person can become an empty shell. Depression is the most common characteristic seen when someone is driven to an emotionally low point.

“You are no use what so ever.” “What is your issue? Why can’t you get anything right?” “You just like your stinking father.” Imagine hearing all these things as a child from a parent or guardian? When you are growing you are developing opinions on yourself and everything associated with you and the world around you. To have these opinions drilled into you in the formative years can push a child to many different extremes. Imagine your home being a place where you feel as if you are less that a person whilst outside of your home your peers treat you as an equal or superior, it can be expected that it be the norm to drift to the position of comfort and good feelings. So the next time you drive past a block before you pass heavy judgment on the gentlemen there consider there may be more to it that just being idle.

Love is history’s most common weapon of mass destruction. For love families have been destroyed, countries lost and a lot of crack was sold to Bobby and Whitney. So imagine loving someone with the love that R. Kelly has for a minor. Every part of you tells you that this person is everything right in the world and in them you can find no wrong but inexplicably this person “loves” you. What if this being of perfection points out that you are incompetent or that you are incapable of being anything of worth if they are removed from the equation that is your life? We would all like to say that we would ignore them and move on but truthfully that terrorist known as Cupid and his arrows of bewitchment have the power to turn the most brilliant of persons into a child when it comes to matters of logic and romance. Having the ability to control how someone sees themselves give you the ability to control that person.

“I loved him, I can’t understand why he would kill himself” the mother cries. “She had everything anyone could ever want” those around her say. No one will remember them telling him they hate him for always using the last of something. No one remembers them asking her constantly why she doesn’t lose weight despite her efforts with diet and exercise. No one ever remembers telling him or her I wish you would just die and stop taking up space. These little things from the right person can become a cancer on the human psyche. Emotional abuse can also subjugate a person and allow they to be physically dominated or abused because they then don’t belief they are “worthy” of anything better.

I dare say that as some of you are reading this it hits a certain spot. It makes you stop and look in the mirror either because you know how it feels or you just realize the power of your words. What I can also say is say nice things to those around you because you may never know the importance someone places on your words. You may save a life by saying a simple thank you.