Represent for Your True Friends

If I asked you how many true friends do you have what would you say? I’m now willing to bet that those of you who are in double digits would be shocked and surprised that the actual figure of real friends that you have is about quarter of what you stated. I will admit that a quarter is a bit of a stretch for some people but I am quite sure that for some it may be accurate or even an overstatement. As the old cliché goes a friend in need is a friend indeed and what we need to see is what being there truly means.

Some of us may say that Person A is a friend because when we were down and out they had our backs and they lent you certain things and they allowed you to express yourself and you can be you around them and they support what you do. I agree totally that this is a good example of what a friend is. What I however would like to say is that these traits are just a fraction of what a true friend would do. So how would I define a true friend I can hear you asking and I say to you let both of you be at a position of need at the same point and we will see who your true friends are.

The statement I just made to some may be a bit confusing but let me try expanding on it. Your mother died a few months ago and it affected you greatly. You are still mourning on the inside and the slightest little thing affects you. Friend A and Friend B were with you throughout the entire ordeal. Friend A and Friend B both have personal drama at the same time and they both turn to you. You want nothing more than to be there for them both but at the same time you are still battling your own personal demons so you ask for a little bit longer to pull yourself together so you can be the friend they need. Friend A reacts that you are a selfish self centred person whilst Friend B, even if hurt, understands you have your issues and lets you know that despite their hard times you two can lean on each other to help pull through.

It doesn’t even have to be a personal situation. It manifests itself a lot with regards to material possessions or even something as simple as time. New romances are usually the point in which fake and real friends show themselves. When you are all caught up in the whirlwind of young love you sometimes become so engrossed that you cut down on or cut out fully on time spent with friends. A true friend is the one who will be supportive and understand why and be happy you are happy, once you aren’t being a extra clingy suicidally dependant being. The fake ones usually protest about how your behavior has change and how you no longer have time for them. At this point I want you to stop and think for a moment. Is there someone in your life that you can go days, week, months or years without speaking to and when you see each other the comfort and conversation level would make the bystander think you lived together daily? Then I dare say this person might just be a true friend to you.

True friends are a rarity in this world and or not to be confused with fair-weather friends. Someone helping you when you both are in ideal situations is just the beginning of a true friendship. Will that person be there after you have disagreed on subject matters, when you call them at 4am because you got dumped, will they be able to understand when you can’t be there for them due to your own drama? These plus other immeasurable factors will show your true friends to you. I’m just worried that many of us will never get to find out who those people are.

To those of you who are my true friends I'm thankful to have you